Comments on: Sex and the prom

By: robin

robin — Wed, 09 May 2007 21:10:59 +0000

Thanks, BJ. I’m on it.

By: bj

bj — Wed, 09 May 2007 21:05:46 +0000

Do I actually have to go through the motion of telling you that they’ll get a lot more out of being molded into Kickass self defenders than into pretty prom ornaments? Talk about a difference in messages . . .

By: Patrick

Patrick — Wed, 09 May 2007 15:07:12 +0000

I have surpassed gender. I am a Space Lord.

By: Melissa

Melissa — Wed, 09 May 2007 15:00:04 +0000

“Let’s not get discouraged about the state of the world. Let’s just each do our part with the people right in front of us to change what we can.”

Oh, I know that’s what I need to do. It’s just sometimes I get so overwhelmed and discouraged with the responsibility of raising decent, honorable, good children and protecting them from all the bad that’s out there.

Patrick, thanks. I need there to be men like you in the world.

By: robin

robin — Wed, 09 May 2007 02:27:58 +0000

Yep, Patrick, we’re looking to you to hold the line. Not only you, but also that youngin’ of yours. Hope you’re raising him right.

By: Patrick

Patrick — Wed, 09 May 2007 02:06:41 +0000

“There are decent ones out there.”

That’s good to know. I hate being the oppressive majority sometimes.

By: robin

robin — Wed, 09 May 2007 01:59:57 +0000

Excellent, Michele. I’m glad to hear you say that, because if I do these girl power (aka kickass girl) clinics, I’ll be calling on all my usual co-instructors to do them with me, and that includes you.

Melissa, don’t feel bad! I agree with what you’re saying. Let’s not get discouraged about the state of the world. Let’s just each do our part with the people right in front of us to change what we can.

By: Michele

Michele — Wed, 09 May 2007 01:26:01 +0000

WOW!!! Speaking from experience here: I’ve had the opportunity to teach young girls (brownies), college girls, and adult women self-defense. I agree with the “let’s get ‘em when their young” theory. So many times I’ve had the college girls and women say to me, “I wish I had learned this when I was 10, or 12, or 15″. We need to be spreading the girl power message.

I have also had the opportunity to speak to pregnant teens (wearing one of my other hats). Even when they are pregnant, they still felt like they weren’t in charge of their own lives – ie: who could be with them during the delivery, should they be forced to marry the slimeball who contributed his sperm, should they or can they press charges against….this is bad….their uncle? They really felt like they had no choices. That talk was supposed to be about “massage techniques for pregnancy” and turned out to be, “empowering the pregnant teenager”. Guess you can tell where my passion is. So I agree – let’s get those girls some knowledge when they’er young! You can count me in for helping where I can Robin.

By: Melissa

Melissa — Wed, 09 May 2007 01:25:15 +0000

Thanks, robin. After I posted that, I felt kind of bad; I don’t mean to come down so hard on boys. There are decent ones out there. Conversely, there are predatory females out there, too.

You’re right, we all have work to do. I just wish it wasn’t so scary out there.

By: robin

robin — Wed, 09 May 2007 01:17:26 +0000

Oh, Melissa, I’m with you on that. I hope people–parents and other adults with sway–are doing just that. I’ve picked my group to work with–girls–but I agree that boys are an equal part of the equation and need attention, too.

It’s like those soldiers who feel it’s all right to assault their female comrades. The military needs to come down HARD on those men. Honor and valor mean more than shooting at the enemy. They mean living with integrity in every respect.

So yes, it makes me wish those boys’ parents had made it clear to them from infancy that girls are not to be used and abused that way.

We all have work to do.